How to Transform Your Sibling Relationships into Lifelong Friendships
At some point in life, many of us begin to see our siblings not only as family but as friends—people we choose to share life with.
Siblings often hold a unique place in our hearts. They’ve known us the longest, witnessed both our best and worst moments, and are often willing to stand by us no matter what. While childhood may have been filled with arguments or different interests, adulthood gives us the chance to know them differently—not just as “brother” or “sister,” but as friends we can truly cherish.
Making the shift from siblings to friends isn’t always easy, but with care and intentional effort, the bond can grow into a friendship that’s deep, lasting, and even closer than family alone. Below are five ways to begin turning your sibling relationship into a lifelong friendship.
Ask to hear each other’s testimonies or life stories
Hearing your siblings’ life stories from their perspective can often be an insightful and eye-opening experience. You might find that you viewed many similar events in different ways or that your sibling experienced many things you didn’t even know about. As siblings, it can be easy to assume you’ve already “seen it all” when it comes to the other person’s life, but you might be surprised to find that’s not true when you actually ask to hear their story.
Don’t forget to send a check-in text or call, not just on holidays
It can be easy to remember to reach out to your siblings over holidays, but what about when it comes to the rest of the year? A simple check-in text every once in a while can go a long way, and can help you feel connected to your siblings throughout everyday life.
Let go of old roles and embrace change
Growing up, siblings naturally adopt different roles–maybe one becomes “the caretaker” or the other is “mom’s favorite.” However you viewed your sibling growing up, it is important to let go of these “old roles” you have assigned to each other. You are no longer children, and these roles you established are no longer applicable.
Have honest and vulnerable conversations
Prioritize vulnerable conversations with your siblings that extend past the awkward small talk catch-up conversations. Talk about your past, your dreams for the future, family dynamics, faith, rough times, good times, and anything in between. Choose to take the step of vulnerability and show your siblings you desire a deep relationship with them.
Spend intentional time together without your parents
Learning to have a relationship outside of “family time” might be just the step you need to take your friendship to that next level. Choosing to spend time together intentionally shows your siblings that you are invested in them personally, not because it is something your parents are forcing. Find a common interest and do that together! Time spent together is always worth it.
What will you do to invest in your siblings as lifelong friends? Consider sharing this post with them, trying one of the ideas above, or collaborating to find a rhythm that works for you.