5 Intentional Questions to Ask Every Anniversary (+ A Marriage Book List!)
Anniversaries are a time of reflection, celebration, and growth! Whether it’s your 1st anniversary or your 50th, each year that passes is proof of intentionality, hard work, and loyal love. Prioritizing these beautiful moments is important, and there are many ways to make anniversaries special for you and your spouse.
Need additional ways to make your anniversaries meaningful each year? The list of questions below will allow you and your spouse to deepen your connection and understanding of each other.
Intentional Questions to Ask Each Anniversary:
How can we improve our communication to better understand each other?
What is a small daily habit I could adopt that would make you feel more valued?
How do you feel we handle conflict well, and how can we improve?
What is your love language, and how do you feel I express love in the way that resonates most with you?
How do you feel we have changed as a couple over the years?
These questions encourage honest conversation and help strengthen your relationship. For further resources, check out the Marriage Book List below!
5 marriage books to put on your reading list–by yourself or with your spouse:
How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan Yerkovich & Kay Yerkovich
The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD, & Nan Silver
Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Diffuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin PsyD (Understanding attachment style)
Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried, and What You Can Do About It by Leslie Becker-Phelps PhD
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive by David Schnarch PhD
Keep your anniversaries meaningful by reflecting together—ask thoughtful questions, and maybe even start a new book to read as a couple. If your marriage feels challenging right now, extend grace to both yourself and your spouse. The road may be tough, but the journey is worth it. If you're in a healthy season, celebrate it fully, and don’t forget to take a moment to support those around you who might be struggling. You're not alone, and neither are they.
