10 Ways to Break the Cycle of Boredom in Your Relationship
Have you ever gone through a season in your relationship where things just feel… boring?
You’re not alone. It’s completely normal for boredom to show up—especially in long-term relationships or marriage—when daily routines start to feel repetitive.
If you’ve felt this way, don’t be too hard on yourself. Instead, see it as a signal to shake things up a bit together.
Keep reading for some simple and meaningful ways to bring fresh energy back into your relationship when things start to feel a little too familiar.
Implement regular surprises
There is nothing more fun than adding some spontaneity to your routine! Sometimes predictable life can get boring, so make it unpredictable! Have a conversation with your partner about randomly surprising each other throughout the year–little or big!
Seek novelty together
You will never reach a point where you’ve explored everything this world has to offer! What city have you never been before? What new coffee shop, hobby, or food might you want to try together? The whole world is at your fingertips!
Switch your household duties for a week
Sometimes just the simple switch up in routine can leave you both laughing and making fun memories. What might it be like for dad to change all the diapers and for mom to spend her day outside doing yardwork? This may even give you more appreciation for your spouse!
Plan a “bigger-than-normal” event for the future
Your “bigger-than-normal” event can be really big or just a little bigger. Maybe it’s treating yourselves to a fancy restaurant you wouldn’t normally go to, saving up for a concert, or planning a vacation! Whatever it is, mark it on the calendar so you can commit and look forward to it!
Seek couples counseling
Couples counseling is NOT only for those who think their relationship is falling apart, it can be for anyone! If you are experiencing boredom in your relationship, couples counseling can help you discover each other on a deeper level and challenge you together, which can add a new dynamic to your relationship.
Put phones away for one day a week
Our phones often consume our time without us even realizing it. Try making a phone bin for you and your partner one day a week where you leave them to rest. With no phones, who knows the exciting things you’ll choose to do with more time on your hands!
Invest in a regular date-night babysitter
If you don’t have one yet, it will be worth it! With a regular babysitter, you can make sure you still get date nights in and not let the business of life overtake you. Getting time away from the kids is essential to keep your relationship intimate and thriving!
Vlog the mundane together
To cure boredom, you often don’t need something new and exciting, but need contentment instead. Life might be mundane right now, and that’s okay. Try vlogging the small moments in life with your partner, it might just help you romanticize them a little bit more!
Start a prank war with each other
Nothing adds fun to a relationship like laughter and silly pranks. Once the first prank starts, the other will only want to top it. Each day, you will always be on your toes either waiting for or planning the next prank.
Find an individual passion
Sometimes boredom in a relationship stems from boredom in your personal life. Find something you care deeply about or love doing, and pursue it! When you are fulfilled individually, you will be able to invest more care and energy into your relationship with your partner.